Heightened Expectations

So, recently I officially became a Real Estate Agent for Rodeo Realty. And, one of the first lessons  I have written down is that it is my duty to manage the expectations of our client. This duty not only applies to my clients but it relates to my self and our own life on a daily basis.

How many times have we prepared ourselves for a scenario that is approaching? Imagined how it is going to play out? Creating step by step what is going to happen which exponentially builds up stress and makes us sweat and say 'holy fuck!.' We attempt to predict what is going to happen because as human beings we are terrified of the unknown and the only way we will sleep at night is if we know how everything is going to unfold. Well, if you haven't realized it yet, you certainly will. Rarely does everything go as planned. So, manage your expectations. A high percentage of the time the way we foresee how a situation will pan out (I.E a date, a sales call, an interview, a surgery etc) turns out being a lot less hostile and much easier than anticipated. If you think back, how many times have you exhaled the air from your lungs after you went through 'it' and said, "that wasn't so bad." And, if it went as badly or worse than you imagined, well shit, deal with it - by the time you realize that it is just as bad your already in the shit storm anyway.

The stress that continually builds, from my unqualified psychiatric opinion, is fear. Fear doesn't exist. As corny on the cob as it sounds, fear doesn't exist in the real world. It is solely created in our own minds. I find that incredible. Sit down by your self, close your eyes and bring up that fear. Let it overwhelm you and think about why you are so scared. Why are WE so scared when it hasn't even happened yet? IT HASN'T HAPPENED! We fear something that hasn't even happened and might not even happen. After a lecture from a CEO, he made it clear to me how ridiculous that is. I am not saying don't be ignorant of what can happen but don't let it consume you because if you do then it WILL happen. The mind is a powerful son of a bitch so just like the saying coming from your mother, "I brought you in to this world and I will certainly take you out"; if your mind is powerful enough to create that expectation of negativity it is certainly powerful enough to destroy that expectation of negativity. Fake it til you make it even when you don't believe it yourself. Do it enough times and it becomes habit and then habit can become reality.


One Love.

HK

4 Quarters

“The real journey of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.” - Marcel Proust (Thank you Andy)

Quite often I hear friends, family and even strangers in which I have brief encounters with hoping for a change. A change that is going to get them out of their "rut" to do something different with their lives. Well, the fact of the matter is you cannot hope to change. You cannot wait for change. YOU have to change. 

Start with the way you think. As simple as that. Change the way you think and perhaps you can change the environment rather than you waiting for the environment to change you. You can discover and come across new landscape but if you look at that landscape with the same eyes then it won't seem any different than where you were. I feel as if change is more exciting than scary. You cannot grow with out changing. So, I push the importance of keeping an open mind. Consider the other perspective and create your own future. New eyes will only lead to new experiences and perhaps the change you want.

Take a step outside because if you don't start with the way you do your things how do you expect different results?

Tupac Knows

I'll do this one myself..

Long time no write.

I'm going to make this brief like boxers. 

The cliche' is that we have no one to blame but ourself, si?

Well, I've always kind of over looked that in the past. But the more experiences I have been going through and the further out of my comfort zone I step, the more I realize the validity in that statement. At the end of the day there really is no one else to blame. (With the exception of when some asshole rear ended me at a red light because that was completely his fault) But, when it comes to pursuing things you want to do, or be (like happy), it is under your control. We literally have the ability to go for anything and I feel the reason that some don't believe in that statement aforementioned is because the fear of self liability. No one likes to be wrong or fail so to deflect it off them self we make excuses. So, people then avoid any opportunity that has a chance of failure. There is risk we cannot take but there is also the risk that we have to take to get where we want. 

I don't know about you but I have been more attentive in making sure I am not blaming anyone but myself. Because we can say anything you want out loud but when I do that I get that feeling inside of "I totally am lying to myself right now." It's like pumping out those last couple push ups at the gym and the last two reps you know you did not go down all the way. You KNOW you didn't, but you still tell people you did 100 when you did 98. That may be a bad analogy but sometimes having that internal conversation with yourself can reveal a lot. 

What I am saying is the more you accept responsibility the more opportunities will present itself. I'm doing my best to accept fear and jump in naked.. butt ass. Because the fact is everyone is scared. Everyone, in every situation, no matter what they say. The best of the best at whatever it is are scared too. But they do what they have to just dive in and just Nike that shit.. JUST DO IT.

Life really isn't all that scary. I'm quoting some big heavy rapper on this one but, "N*ggaz bleed just like us".

HK

White Out

I was reminded today that some people have limitations. Some people are capable of things that other people are not. The difference is not the innate ability to create things or talent, but the courage within. I am paraphrasing an article I recently read but when I say courage within I mean the people that are willing to take a chance. And when I say take a chance I don't mean blindly invest yourself in some decision that you have no control over. I mean wisely decide on an opportunity that has an abundance of repercussions yet a contingency of positivity. One of the most common fears is the fear of being rejected. I can't say that I am completely immune to feeling the affects of rejection but I am certainly widening that gap. 

In my opinion, there are those that settle for the stable and 'safe' route and those that don't settle. And the difference between those that settle and don't settle is proportionate to those that are willing take a risk and not take a risk. When you take a risk it is vital to project confidence further increasing the probability of success within your risk. Which reminds me of a quote from Christopher McCandless:  

“It is important in life not to be strong, but to feel strong.' 

So, whatever it is your about to go after, talk yourself into confidence. Even if in the back of your mind you know that you aren't, it doesn't matter. It is a projection. A projection isn't a tangible thing. But if it appears tangible then it is tangible, A.K.A real. Whether it is stepping on a basketball court, sealing a deal or talking to a girl, portray confidence. That to me seems like the first step to success in executing a risk, let alone anything.

We get too comfortable. We get to secure. The weird thing is security is what we all attain. In my sick little mind security is boring. A new horizon, new experience, new challenges are all insecure and yet the most pivotal to our growth. But the thing I realized is neither path is right or wrong, it is just preference. Whatever I think and whatever I write on this blog is simply a preference. Everyone is different and has their own reaction to each stimuli. But, regardless I still feel it is necessary to keep things fresh and take a risk. Keeping things fresh is one of the most important components of a relationship, and I've barely been in a long term relationship! In comparison, keeping things fresh in a relationship is just as important as keeping things fresh in life. If you find something you like to do, continue on with that but do not settle. Continue to progress, continue to long for something that may seem unattainable and take the unbeaten path. Even if it is only once in a while. 

Mix it up, keep it real and don't be scared.

Ramblers

"I hope it is true that a man can die and yet not only live in others but give them life, and not only life, but that great consciousness of life."  - Jack Kerouac

I'm really doing great. I don't have a lot of money, yet. My eyes are open. I am completely aware of life right now. But so very often I have these moments where I just can't take it anymore. Life is just too heavy. But in a beautiful way. Not in an overbearing or stressful way, life is just so fucking heavy. And these moments occur in the most calm of situations. 

Success is subjective. Here in Hollywood success = status. I don't care about that. Sure it would be fantastic to be famous but the only people that I actually care about what they think is my family. Every day I wonder what am I doing out here? It is like I just woke up and I am here. I didn't think about it, I just came. And I am glad I did because even though there are so many fraudulent people, I have met so many amazing people that I know will be involved in my life forever and that's beautiful. This rant I am typing has no clear message but ultimately I just want to slow life down and just remind people how small we really are. Even after you chased down your 'dreams' and theres nothing left to chase, are we not brought back to our loved ones? Life to me is relationships and if I'm not taking care of my relationships, or the people I love than what am I doing. I am doing great, believe it or not, this is not a cry for help or solution. There is a method to all my madness. Just once in a while I feel the need to share what is on my mind because I am random, shameless and just hoping there is someone who can read even just one of these incoherent sentences and feel at comfort because there is someone who feels the same way.

Life is heavy and so are bowling balls. All we can do is keep rolling on. 

JD<3LUKE

HK

8 Mile

Sup?

So often people fear what we have no control over. My thing is why seek control in an uncontrollable environment (life). As humans we seek to gain control on mother nature, people, situations, etc. But the fact is we never have complete control. It is only until we let loose and lose control that we are free. Free from all the worries, the prejudice, the judgement and ridicule. All I say is let lose and live with a more F-it attitude. But don't be stupid.

If your confused, do you not realize how small we are? That there are literally different universes outside of our universe. Endless, infinite amounts of space that just does not give a fuck that you got a 97 on your managerial accounting exam. No I'm not high, I am more sober than a fetus. All we have is this very moment we are in. Be conscious of the future but please don't obsess over it. Live for what it's worth and what it's worth is only valued by you.

Maybe I am just justifying what I am doing. I to have plenty of things to work on.

“So many people live within unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservatism, all of which may appear to give one peace of mind, but in reality nothing is more damaging to the adventurous spirit within a man than a secure future. The very basic core of a man's living spirit is his passion for adventure. The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.” - Christopher McCandless

Neil Gaiman Commencement Speech

HK

Mr. Andy

I've been in several interesting and unique situations all my life. They tend to find me. I would like to share one particular scenario that occurred last night.

After a couple hours of drinking some premium Keystone Lights with a couple old and new friends we walk our asses to a local bar down the street from my house called The Dark Room. We make our way through the relatively crowded bar to get to the bartender. For those of you that know me I say hello to just about anyone I make eye contact with. So, I see a very drunk, slob of a man with glasses right next to me so I offer my fist for a bro pound.

"Whats up dude?!?"

Approximately 30 seconds into the incoherent conversation it registers that this man is none other than Andy Dick.

"Whats your name man?"
"Andy."
"Oh, right. So what are YOU doing out here?"

The woman he was with nearly immediately says, "I'm going to go, I'll leave you two alone." Something along those lines. At the buzzed moment of time I thought it was slightly strange but shrugged it off because, shit! It's Andy Dick!

In a loud bar it isn't all that unusual for someone to talk in your ear. But when you feel the warm breath trickle your ear drum it's a little too close for comfort. Oh, and he was also cupping the back of my neck and pulling me towards him. Andy Dick is a lot stronger than I thought. Somewhere in between talking about cocaine, his three children, how "awesome" I am and how "everyone in here is jealous of us you fucking idiot!" he attempted and slightly succeeded in molesting me. He was forcefully pulling me towards him until I would physically restrain him from me by grabbing both of his arms and yelling at him whilst slightly laughing. Towards the end of the encounter, before I started to get angry and feel slightly violated, he put his hand up my shirt and was tugging at my shirt. All I could say was..

"Andy! No! Stop it, Andy! I like this shirt, Andy. I like this shirt! Stop it!"

When I realized those standing in a 5 foot radius, including the bar tenders, were just watching the entire thing I decided to say good bye after he wanted me to take his number. Just when I thought this was a time to network, it was a time to simply hold on to the soap.

Fortunately I stepped aside because towards the end I was on the verge of bitch slapping and/or punching Andy Dick in his face. Completely absurd.

I wish straight women were as forward as Andy.

Oh, and the other day in Hollywood a very old man offered me a lollypop.

As you can see, my hand was on his wrist to prevent him from grabbing me. Straight up the most difficult picture of my life. In attempts to make me feel better, my heterosexual roommate on the left told me it was because I'm "sexy". So feel free to make fun of @Wannop10.

*No disrespect to Andy Dick.

And if you haven't watched my short film ICEBERG yet, please do. And please share on your facebook and twitter if you would. 

:)

Happy Father's Day, Kid. Miss and Love you.